Isn’t it true that when we think of love, we think of “happy endings.” Most of the time, we think that everything will go well when there is love. When people are in love, then they must be happy. We tend to believe that “all we need is love” for us to achieve happiness.
Why is that so?
Well, perhaps we were made to believe that love always equates to happiness. Then you would ask me, “Isn’t that true?” Yes, it is true in some instances, but it’s not ALWAYS true, I would say.
Let’s take into account the ever famous play Romeo and Juliet by Shakespeare. Romeo and Juliet were in love but their love story ended sadly. They both took their own lives out of their love for each other and of their desire to be together, even in death. So why did their story end sadly if they were truly in love?
“It’s just a play. It’s not based on reality,” you’d say.
Okay. Now, consider those people who choose to work abroad, away from their families in order for them to better provide for the needs of their families. Don’t they do that out of love? Do you think they wake up every day happy with the fact that they work away from their loved ones? Perhaps not, but they do it anyway out of their love for their families.
Think of the world’s present condition. Many of the frontliners in the fight against Covid-19, like doctors and nurses, risk their lives every day out of their love for people and their jobs. Do you think those who got infected were happy when they found out that they got the dreaded disease? I’m sure they were worried about themselves and their families. What about the families of those who died? Do you think they were happy to hear that their family members died because they chose to continue serving others who needed treatment? What about those who died themselves? Do you think they were happy to hear that they might lose their own lives because they chose to love and serve others first? Then why did their lives end in death and sadness when they did what they did out of love?
It simply shows that not everything we do out of love ends with “happily ever after” and that’s a fact we have to accept and live with, but to accept that fact doesn’t mean we should stop loving ourselves or others since it cannot guarantee us the happiness we long to have.
Love is a great force. Love can make us do great things. Love can give strength to a weary soul. Love can bring a smile to a downcast spirit. Love can cause us to do something we have never imagined we could ever do before. Love conquers fear. Love breaks barriers. Love connects cultures. Love forgives. Love reconciles.
Love died on a cross!
He who does not love does not know God, for God is love. (1 John 4:8 NKJV)
For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. (John 3:16 KJV)
5Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus, 6who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped, 7but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men. 8Being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. (Philippians 2:5-8 NASB)
Jesus suffered a humiliating death to show God’s great love for us. He was beaten, mocked, and crucified. He died on the cross so we may know and experience the depth of His love for us all.
16 I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being,17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love,18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ,19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. (Ephesians 3:16-21 NIV)
We can see through all the examples I’ve mentioned that love doesn’t always equate to happiness. Sometimes when we love we get hurt. Sometimes when we love we need to make sacrifices, and oftentimes making sacrifices isn’t always fun, is it? And if things aren’t fun anymore then we’re not happy, are we?
I guess what I really want to say is that we shouldn’t think that because we love what we do or the people we are with that things will go smoothly all the time or that we can always feel or see happiness around us. It is okay to feel sad at times because that’s when we know we’ve truly loved or cared for someone. It’s okay to say goodbye or make sacrifices for people we love and not “feel” happy all the time being away from them because we know why we’re doing what we’re doing. And I believe Jesus didn’t mind the humiliating death He suffered because He knew the purpose of His death – to save you and me.
So if you’re sad now even after being sure that you truly loved someone or something (perhaps a job or a cause that didn’t end well), it’s okay! To be sad doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world for you. To be sad doesn’t always mean you’ve lost someone or something. Maybe it can mean that someone or something better is waiting ahead of you. You just have to accept the reality that you’re sad now but you should keep moving forward and looking forward to a brighter, better tomorrow.
Don’t let your sadness take away your hopes, dreams, and your next opportunity to love again. Love doesn’t always end with “happily ever after” but it makes life worth living, doesn’t it? 😉
7 Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. 8 The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love. 9 By this the love of God was manifested in us, that God has sent His only begotten Son into the world so that we might live through Him. 10 In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins. 11 Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 12 No one has seen God at any time; if we love one another, God abides in us, and His love is perfected in us. 13 By this we know that we abide in Him and He in us, because He has given us of His Spirit. 14 We have seen and testify that the Father has sent the Son to be the Savior of the world.
1 John 4:7-14 NASB